Starving

Many of us are straight up starving. And not literally, because I have learned how to stretch a Wendy’s 4 for $4 into an entire three course meal for two people! 

But no really....  As you fill up your plates today, pause for a second and reflect on the areas in your life that are starving.  Starving for healing Starving for peace Starving for purpose  Starving for validation  Starving for identity  Starving for love  Starving for better health  Starving for someone to just understand or hear your silent cries for help  Maybe you are Starving your dreams or  Starving your own identity to build some one else’s   You may be neglecting an area in your life that desperately needs to be nursed back to health again.  For me I was desperately yearning for validation from others. I was starving off of the opinion of others and still feeling empty. There was no way I could feast off of afflictions and offenses. I was posting pictures on social media and getting a few likes and comments, and left in a mental battle of unworthiness.  I was comparing my image to other women and literally altering my look just in hopes of getting a little more attention.  When I changed my image I was left looking and feeling less and less like myself.  My mind was becoming boggled when I was the topic of conversation among gossip. It literally would leave me feeling so broken inside. I just didn’t have enough assurance in myself to live off of the daily bread of God’s word, or recharge off of the power of the life dwelling on my own tongue.  I can also think of another time more recently when I was spending so much time being Alvin’s wife and Kennedy’s mom, that I forgot what it meant to just be Lia. I was starving myself of the ability to fulfill my own dreams and purpose as a woman. I was more irritable and getting frustrated quicker than usual. So I had to make self care and my sacred time mandatory. Even if there was only $7 in the account, I was taking that $7 straight to chick fil a and eating my meal alone in the car, because ladies we’re worth it too!  In both situations I turned my house into a war zone. I used ten good dollars and went to the store and purchased sticky notes and markers. I was tired of losing myself to the world, feeling powerless in my worth, or putting myself on the back burner.  I wrote words of affirmation in every visible place of my home, ranging from:  -You are fearfully and wonderfully made -Queen, Don’t ever let your crown slip, for a world that did not place it there  -Girl you are beautiful and your price is far above rubies  - God’s Love is all you need  - You are treasured and your presence is a gift to the world  - You are loved, you are a child of God, and He is pleased with you And I posted them bad boys allllll over my home. Any where my eyes could see. If I was frying chicken honey I was going to look right up on that stove and KNOW how pleased God was with my chicken frying abilities. When I was getting getting dressed I was going to be clothing in power and identity that no word could ever destroy. And most importantly when I looked in that mirror everyday, I HAD to know I was the most beautiful jewel in the world.  I want you to know that man can not live by bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God. - Matthew 4:4  God’s desire for you is to live an abundant life full of purpose  Have you considered thirsting after the well that never runs dry? Since there are 39 days left in 2018 I challenge you to knock that junk off of your plate and feed your soul with life!  It doesn’t have to be sticky notes and you don’t have to spend any money to complete the task, but you know yourself more than anyone else and you know what you need. Whatever it is, find yourself a quote, a scripture, a devotional, a prayer, a checklist or daily reminder to do something nice for yourself, face it head on, and feast off of that meal of life each and everyday!  Write your dreams down on your mirror and face them everyday until you start to see them blossom and spread like wildfire.  If you’re starving a healthy body, write encouragement on your fridge so before you even open the door, you starve the desire to even want more. Starve those cravings until you see the weight flee from your sight.  If you’ve become comfortable in the weight of conviction every time you go out and turn up, or find yourself in bed with a another man who has no intention of valuing your heart the way you should , starve the thirst traps, delete the numbers of people who are starving your flesh and your ability to be whole and free from iniquity.  Your girls aren’t really your girls until they call you and text you every week to see how things are REALLY going! Check your tribe, some of you may need to get some new friends who will feed your soul and not add to the hunger.  Let’s stay connected as you starve the things that are starving you. Let me know how things are going and how I can encourage you along the way!  Let’s inspire one another! ❤️